It seems like you can’t do anything right.
Your husband is becoming increasingly annoyed and irritated with you over insignificant or minor things such as misplacing a sock from the dryer, or turning the lamp on to read.
The result is:
You feel like you are walking on egg shells when you’re around him, and finally you want to avoid seeing him all together.
It’s really straining your marriage.
But don’t lose hope yet.
There’s a simple solution to this problem, and it requires little to no action on your part.
No “working on the marriage”, no “let’s talk about our relationship”.
Want to know what to do?
2 Things You Desperately Want to Know
Here’s what you probably want to know:
1. Why is your husband always irritated with you (is it your fault)?
2. How can you make it stop (and get your loving husband back)?
I’d like to suggest my point of view and answer these questions for you:
1. Why Your Husband is Constantly Irritable
The most important thing I want you to understand that even though his irritation and dissatisfaction is directed at you – it has nothing to do with you.
Your husband is really annoyed with himself. HE is the one he is irritated at.
[yellowbox]This is his way to express HIS profound personal unhappiness.[/yellowbox]
Since most of us are used to looking outside for someone else to blame when we feel like crap, your husband has found the easiest (and nearest) person to blame.
It’s you, of course.
[yellowbox]To explain his misery, he is fixating on your every action and word and using it as an excuse for why he doesn’t like his life (and himself!) at this point.[/yellowbox]
But WHY is he depressed or Unsatisfied with his life?
There are literally hundreds of possible reasons for his personal unhappiness.
Maybe he grew up with critical and judgmental parents who made him feel nothing he does is good enough (sounds familiar?).
Maybe this led him to have unrealistic expectation from himself, his marriage and everyone around him.
Maybe he is frustrated from wanting many things while believing he can never get them.
The point is, it DOESN’T matter.
No matter how much you love him and want to support him, there is nothing you can do about it.
(Well, almost nothing, as you’ll see below)
HE is the only one that creates his own reality.
Here’s what I guarantee:
[yellowbox]When he feels better about himself, his whole attitude towards you will change.[/yellowbox]
His irritability will be gone. His anger will subside. He will be able to see you – his wonderful wife and best friend – who he cannot see right now.
This leads us to the second question:
2. How to Make it Stop and Get Your Loving Husband Back?
There is only one thing you can do to get your loving husband back, and it requires no action on your part.
[yellowbox]It only requires you to change the way you THINK.[/yellowbox]
It’s a law of nature:
The things you focus on – get bigger.
If you focus on his irritability and anger – I assure you it’ll get bigger.
On the other hand, if you focus, with all your might – on his positive attributes – you’ll witness more and more of them re-appearing – every day.
Here’s what to do:
- Sit down for 3 minutes every day and write a list of things about him – that you are thankful for.
The children he has brought to this world with you.
The way he can make you laugh. His heart-warming smile.
The family that you’ve created together.
The way he supports your family financially.
If you put your heart to it, you’ll find dozens of things.
2. Think back and remember all the fun times and the little amazing moments you had together. Remember the way he was there for you over the years.
This is the REAL man you are married to. He is there, hiding somewhere underneath his depression and anger.
This man still loves you with all his heart.
Stick with these thoughts for at least 10 minutes every day.
And when you’re done, let it go.
And When He Gets Irritated With You Again?
When he gets irritated again, just ignore it. Think of it as an illusion. A dream. A TV show that isn’t real.
Accept it, but don’t take it to heart. It has nothing to do with you.
The only reality you accept from now on is the one on your list.
If you stick with it for 30 days, I promise you’ll see the real, physical reality change in front of your eyes.
You’ll find yourself capable of seeing the real things that bother him.
You’ll be able to encourage him to follow his dreams, to do whatever he needs to be happy again. To love himself again (or maybe for the first time in his life).
You’ll be able to tell him that you believe he is a powerful man, capable of achieving anything he wants, and that he has no limitations.
And while you’re at it, tell yourself the exact same things.
And see him fall in love with you all over again.
And feel you fall in love with him all over again.
See your marriage renewed. See your children calmer. Happier.
Close your eyes.
Can you see it? Can you feel it?
Then it’s there.
Rooting for ya,
And while you’re at it, here’s the simplest way to bring the spark back to your marriage.
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