4 Signs He’s In Love With Someone Else (Emotional Affair)

emotional affair signs

Can you imagine a greater marital crisis than an emotional affair?

When your husband finds intimacy and an emotional connection with another woman, the physical aspect is not far behind, and the slippery road to divorce begins.

But how can you know if your spouse is emotionally involved with someone else?

The 6 Most Common Emotional Affair Signs

Marriage is built on an emotional connection between two people. When one partner goes outside of marriage to seek fulfillment, whether that fulfillment is sexual or emotional in nature – That is cheating.

Here are the most common signs he’s having an emotional affair:

1. If your husband has a deep personal relationship with some intensity (with another woman), the relationship has probably crossed over to an emotional affair.

2. Sharing private thoughts – If he shares his most private thoughts with someone other than you – He is probably getting emotionally attached to that other woman.

3. Hiding the extent of the “side” relationship – If he is secretive about his “friendship” and hiding text messages and his cell phone – It means he has something to hide.

4. Getting angry and defensive when asked about the other woman – When you ask him about these little signs – does he get angry and try to blame you for snooping instead of answering your question? If the answer is yes – It means he is feeling guilty and trying to hide the truth shift the attention to you.

Generally, the response from the person who has been “caught” is to argue, “What, you mean I can’t have a friend of the opposite sex?”

5. He doesn’t share his problems with you. If he never has, it’s less suspicious. But if he used to share his struggles with you and now he doesn’t, plus he has a female friend, he is probably sharing them with her.

6. He is not interested in sex (because he fantasizes about her), or is more interested than ever (because he is more sexually aroused by the excitement of having a crush on someone else).

I know how painful it is for you to find out even one of these emotional infidelity signs. It feels like a stab in the heart would feel and it makes you feel like the rug is being pulled under your feet.

I know. I’ve been there.

How to Make Him END His Emotional Affair

Let me start with what NOT to do first.

1. Do not confront him and accuse him in having an emotional affair before you have proof. You’ll only hear lies and he will run out the house to get his story straight. If you must confront him, do it the right way.

2. I know how excruciating it is, but don’t let your anger, humiliation and heart-break stop you from thinking straight. First decide if your marriage is worth saving and only then take the next steps.

3. You may find it hard to believe, but there are effective ways to make him stop cheating, before it’s too late.

The most important message I want to get through to you, is that even if you found signs of an emotional affair, it doesn’t mean that your marriage is over. It means that your marriage is in trouble, and you have to take immediate steps to prevent getting to the point of no return.

Your husband still loves you, but his emotions are stuck under years of unaddressed communication problems, which are the most common cause of marital problems.

This can be fixed and reversed, but only if you take this golden opportunity to change things, and make your marriage better than it ever was.

Rooting for ya,


* Do you think your husband is having an emotional affair? Share your story in the comments below.

Marriage Max

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  1. my husband has been cheating and when i confronted him,he claims they are doing him favours relating to his business.he hasnt apologiesed to me though and am really hurt.

  2. I have seen lot of people building up resentment on the husband because of the affair. This is hard to overcome if ignored. Deal with our own emotions is really important. Knowing the root cause that pushed him to have the affair has to be known. That will give a better understanding of the situation. Thanks, Emma. [Read my latest post on spouse infidelity]

  3. Over the last few months I’ve caught my husband lying and covering up text messages and Facebook messaging from a much younger co-worker. I confronted him and it only led to fights and us growing more apart. I do believe he loves me and I love him. We both have grown into a rut as his 87 year old mother lives with us, whom I take care of. Today he admitted with no prompting that he believes he “was” emotionally cheating. Although he says he didn’t realize he was doing it until I mentioned it in our last fight. Now, he is super attentive, lovey dovey, and all about me. Part of me wants to believe he is genuinely sorry. Another part is in complete shock and heartbroken, and part of me wonders if she told him to back off and I’m second in his feelings. I truly don’t know what to do or what I should believe. Help?

    • Terri,

      From what you’re telling him I have a feeling that he is really sorry, I know you feel hurt and betrayed, but I think your marriage is worth one more chance, especially since he seems to regret his actions.

      And try not assume things, like that you’re a second choice. Why would that be true? Yo9u can always ask him too, if you really want to make sure. You’ll know if he is telling you the truth or not.