No matter how long you’ve been married, and no matter how long your marriage has been in trouble, you can never get quite prepared to hear that your husband doesn’t love you anymore.
And then he says he wants to leave. And you feel that the life that you built together, your family, your whole life as you know it, is about to be pulled from under your feet.
How Can I Get My Husband to Love Me Again?
When you look back at the relationship you used to have, and the passionate love you shared, this question seems almost surreal. Where did it go? What happened? How can two people who were so much in love turn into strangers living in the same house?
Well, you may be surprised to learn that things are not always the way they appear.
Just because your husband said he doesn’t love you, it doesn’t mean that it’s TRUE.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that your marriage is really over.
Can you get your husband to love you again?
According to Dr. Frank Gunzburg, the author of several marriage saving programs (that were really helpful to me personally), when your spouse says he no longer loves you, that doesn’t always mean the love is dead. It may simply mean the love has been covered up by anger, frustration, resentment or other emotions.
What Goes in His Mind When He Says He Doesn’t Love You
To justify his feelings, your husband may even start to rewrite history to match his feeling that the love is dead. He may say things like “I never really loved you”, or “I married you out of obligation:”
It’s like stabbing you in the heart and then twisting the knife.
As difficult as this feels, not all hope is gone. You were once in love and you can fall in love all over again.
How to Rebuild His Love for You – In 3 Steps
There are 3 specific steps you need to take starting right now, to make him re-discover his love for you. These are NOT tricks, gimmicks or clever psychological games.
I’ve “stolen” these steps from Dr. Gunzburg program, (With permission, don’t worry…)
These steps are NOT meant to get your relationship back to where it was BEFORE the love evaporated. These steps will help you make your relationship BETTER than it used to be.
Here are the steps, designed to be followed in Sequence:
#1 -Restore the trust
You are probably aware that your marriage has more lies than truth in it. If your relationship was open and honest, it would not deteriorate the where it’s at right now.
This is especially true if your husband said he doesn’t love you, right after confessing about an affair.
You have to discover where trust still exists and how to regain the trust back in your spouse, even after he has cheated on you. You have to learn to talk like friends again.
Without restoring the trust and the honesty in your relationship, there’s no way your husband can realize how much he actually loves YOU.
#2 – Deepen the Emotional Connection
The love can not be dead in an open and healthy-communicating marriage. If your husband said he doesn’t love you, I can guess that your communication style is unhealthy or non-existent.
When this happens, you send the message that your spouse isn’t special to you anymore, he is a nuisance, and that your life would be better without him.
You simply must turn this around, and Dr. Frank Gunzburg shows how to do that HERE.
#3 – Bring Back the Spark
Just imagine having all that love and passion you used to have – Back in your relationship. Just having fun with your husband will create a series of positive emotions and behaviors that may actually save your marriage.
You have to learn about the ways to bring back the fun and the laughter back to your marriage. If your husband has left, this can be quite tricky. In this case I would recommend a good texting plan. Texting is a powerful way to get an ex back, without losing your dignity. More on that – HERE.
If your husband still lives with you, you have to learn how to reignite the spark. How to decide what to do for fun and how to get him on board. One good date with your husband can make him remember again how much he really loves you and wants to be with you and you alone.
As I always say, just don’t wait. Act now, before it’s too late.
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