No matter how long you’ve been married, and no matter how long your marriage has been in trouble, you can never get quite prepared to hear that your husband doesn’t love you anymore.
And no matter how much you try to make things better, he refuses to talk to you, he refuses to listen to you, he refuses counseling.
And then he says he wants to leave. And you feel that the life that you built together, your family, your whole life as you know it, is going to be destroyed.
How Can I Get My Husband to Love Me Again?
When you look back at the relationship you used to have, and the passionate love you shared, this question seems almost surreal. Where did it go? What happened? How can two people who were so much in love turn into strangers living in the same house?
Well, you may be surprised to learn that things are not always the way they appear.
Just because your husband said he doesn’t love you, doesn’t mean that it’s TRUE.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that your marriage is over.
So…how can I get my husband to fall in love with me again?
According to Dr. Frank Gunzburg, the author of several marriage saving programs (that were extremely helpful to me personally), when your spouse says he no longer loves you, it doesn’t always mean the love is dead.
It may simply mean the love has been covered up by anger, frustration, resentment or other emotions.
What Goes in His Mind When He Says He Doesn’t Love You
To justify his feelings, your husband may even start to rewrite history to match his claim that the love is dead. He may say things like “I never really loved you”, or “I married you out of obligation:”
It’s like stabbing you in the heart and then twisting the knife.
As difficult as this feels, hope is here.
If you were once in love you can fall in love all over again.
How to Rebuild His Love for You – In 3 Steps
Right now, you can start with 3 specific steps to make him re-discover his love for you. These are NOT tricks, gimmicks or clever psychological games.
I’ve “stolen” these steps from Dr. Gunzburg program, (With permission, don’t worry…)
Note: These steps are NOT meant to get your relationship back to where it was BEFORE the love evaporated. These steps will help you make your relationship BETTER than it used to be.
#1 – Remind Him
You are probably aware that your marriage has more lies than truth in it right now. If your relationship was open and honest, it would not have deteriorated to where it’s at right now.
(This is especially true if your husband said he doesn’t love you, right after confessing about an affair.)
You have to discover where trust still exists and how to regain the trust back in your spouse, even after he has cheated on you. You have to learn to talk like friends again.
Without restoring the trust and the honesty, Your husband will not realize how much he actually loves YOU.
#2 – Best Friends
In an open and healthy-communicating marriage, love can’t stay “dead”. If your husband said he doesn’t love you, I can guess that your communication style is unhealthy or non-existent.
When this happens, you send the message that your spouse isn’t special to you anymore, he is a nuisance, and that your life would be better off without him.
You simply must turn this around, and Dr. Frank Gunzburg shows how to do that HERE.
#3 – The Spark
Can you imagine having all that love and passion you used to have – Back in your relationship?
Just having fun with your husband will create a series of positive emotions and behaviors that may actually save your marriage.
You have to learn about the ways to bring back the fun and the laughter back into your marriage. If your husband has left, this can be quite tricky.
In this case I would recommend a good texting plan. Texting is a powerful way to get an ex back, without losing your dignity.
If your husband still lives with you, you have to learn how to reignite the spark. How to decide what to do for fun and how to get him on board. Just one fun date with your husband can remind him of how much he adores you and wants to be with you and only you.
Getting your husband love back is possible, even if it seems impossible.
As I always say, just don’t wait. Act now, before it’s too late.
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