Nothing can make you feel more invisible and lonely than being taken for granted. You do everything you possible can to make your husband happy, but your hard work and efforts are left unnoticed at best, and criticized at worst.
“My husband doesn’t appreciate me“, you cry inside as you wash his laundry, make his favorite meals, iron his clothes, take care of your kids and probably have a job just like him.
My Husband Doesn’t Appreciate Me – Am I Doing Something Wrong?
Believe it or not, just because your husband treats you like this, does NOT mean that he doesn’t love you or care for you anymore. If you want to stop being taken for granted and get the attention, respect and love that you deserve, now is the time to take action.
Doing the same things over and over again, giving more and more and expecting that something will change is the definition of insanity.
Obviously trying harder is a road to nowhere.
Instead of trying to be the perfect wife and focusing so much on good deeds – Which he doesn’t notice – Try a direct method of communication:
1. Tell it Like it Is
I’ve learned this life-changing tip from Randy E. Bennett (Couples’ therapist):
Men NEED their woman to be direct and assertive.
For example, if he asks you where you want to go for dinner, don’t say “I don’t know, whatever you want” and then sulk at dinner because he chose pit BBQ and you wanted Italian. Say “My preference tonight would be for Italian. What’s yours?”
This gives him something to work with, instead of thinking later what went wrong and why you are hardly eating or talking to him.
This is just an example, but it applies for everything. Men need to be told directly what’s expected from them.
Don’t ever wait for him to GUESS what you want and what you need from him . He will never guess and you will only get frustrated and angry.
2. Basic Communication Mistakes
I can almost guarantee that if your husband doesn’t appreciate you, the way you communicate with him is all wrong. Men understand things differently than women and need to be communicated in a certain way.
Once you learn the simple ways to communicate with him the right way, you will discover how easily you can make him listen to you, respect you and re-discover how much he adores you.
Randy Bennett explains these simple communication methods and how they can easily turn your husband from a self-absorbed, unappreciative and uncaring husband to a man who worships the ground you walk on.
Now is the time to put a stop to being a victim. You deserve to be appreciated, respected and loved by your husband. Agreed?
You can either keep sulking and feeling sorry for yourself, or get up and do something about it. This is how it gets done.
Rooting for ya,
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