My Husband Doesn’t Appreciate Me – What Can I DO?

Nothing can make you feel more invisible and lonely than being taken for granted. You do everything you possible can to make your husband happy, but your hard work and efforts are left unnoticed at best, and criticized at worst.

My husband doesn’t appreciate me“, you cry inside as you wash his laundry, make his favorite meals, iron his clothes, take care of your kids and probably have a job just like him.

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My Husband Doesn’t Appreciate Me – What’s Wrong With Me?

Believe it or not, just because your husband treats you like this, does NOT mean that he doesn’t love you or care for you anymore. If you want to stop being taken for granted and get the attention, respect and love that you deserve, now is the time to take action.

Doing the same things over and over again, giving more and more and expecting that something will change is the definition of insanity.

 Obviously trying harder is a road to nowhere.

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How to Make Your Husband Appreciate You

Instead of trying to be the perfect wife and focusing so much on good deeds – Which he doesn’t notice – Try a direct method of communication:

1. Tell it Like it Is

I’ve learned this life-changing tip from Randy E. Bennett (Couples’ therapist):

Men NEED their woman to be direct and assertive.

For example, if he asks you where you want to go for dinner, don’t say “I don’t know, whatever you want” and then sulk at dinner because he chose pit BBQ and you wanted Italian. Say “My preference tonight would be for Italian. What’s yours?”

This gives him something to work with, instead of thinking later what went wrong and why you are hardly eating or talking to him.

This is just an example, but it applies for everything. Men need to be told directly what’s expected from them.

Don’t ever wait for him to GUESS what you want and what you need from him . He will never guess and you will only get frustrated and angry.

2. Avoid Basic Communication Mistakes

I can almost guarantee that if your husband doesn’t appreciate you, the way you communicate with him is all wrong. Men understand things differently than women and need to be communicated in a certain way.

Once you learn the simple ways to communicate with him the right way, you will discover how easily you can make him listen to you, respect you and re-discover how much he adores you.

Randy Bennett explains these simple communication methods and how they can easily turn your husband from a self-absorbed, unappreciative and uncaring husband to a man who worships the ground you walk on.

Now is the time to put a stop to being a victim. You deserve to be appreciated, respected and loved by your husband.  Agreed?

You can either keep sulking and feeling sorry for yourself, or get up and do something about it. This is how it gets done.

Rooting for ya,

Lisa

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  1. Nice post! :)

    A bit of assertiveness can do great wonders in a relationship, especially one that feels as though the spark’s already missing. Both husband and wife should each make an effort to make things exciting again, and have everyday be one that’s filled with constant surprises.

    Visiting you from the Happy Wives Club link up.

  2. Such a wonderful post! Great advice! You are so right, it was when I stopped looking for what was wrong with my husband and focused on me and how I needed to be a better wife, that was when my marriage got better…and better. Thank you, so glad I found you through HWC link up!

  3. Love the call to action here! It’s interesting because most of the challenges in marriage can be found within the person asking the question. We tend to project on to our spouse our own flaws and shortcomings. But the person who is introspective first will find so many answers and will strengthen the marriage along the way.

  4. Yep, that was me when I was first married and I hated every minute of it! I finally woke up to the fact that my husband didn’t know how to read my mind. He needed me to be clear about what I wanted from him. Now, to be fair, I started this out with an attitude, so it didn’t go over very well. But once I got my attitude in check and asked with respect and kindness, I saw a huge change in him. And as you’ve so eloquently pointed out here, Lisa, it not only gets me what I want but improves the relationship. Great thoughts, my friend. And thanks so much for linking up with Wedded Wed! I hope to see you again next week!

  5. I feel like I do everything I can to make my husband happy & I do nothing to make him mad & I especially never nag. He not only doesn’t appreciate the good I do but he only notices the flaws in me, he actually find things to pick at me for & the worst is he will say what more he wants out of me & forgets I have wants to. When we’re talking about what we want its about what he wants & weekday I cld do more but I never heard him ask what I want or care to hear what I want. If I say what I want it goes back to me first being better at this or that or Don’t do this or that & maybe he’ll wna make me happy (not in words exactly but that’s what it boils down to) I agree communication is the next policy & so is honesty. For the example on where to eat I do say where I want to go & he doesn’t want to go there. Its like that w anything we do, any date we been on its what he wants to do & if we finally do what I want I’m given grief for it later like I wasnt worth doing it for. I also want support in some things I may choose to do the way I not only support him w any little thing but I show that support to the fullest no matter how small it may seem to be to me I then make it big & important. How do I get him to show & be supportive of me (maybe not the exact way I do cuz men&women show things differently) as much as I am of him? ?How do I get him to do things for me jst bcuz he jst wants to see me smile after how hard I work in trying to do things that I kno makes him happy in daily life & what he loves to do that r things I don’t prefer to do myself??? How do I not only get these things I need from my spouse but more importantly get my partner to want to do these things for me?

    • G.E,

      It seems proven by now that what you are doing (which is everything to make him happy like you said) is not working and not being reciprocated,

      The obvious answer is to stop doing what you are doing, Stop doing everything to make him happy and start doing everything to make YOU happy.

      You are obviously being taken for granted and some men need clear boundaries (like children) or they just do what ever they want and become completely selfish.

      Starting now, your first priority is you. Do what makes you happy and ignore his behaviour for a while. Take a step away from him. A little invisible break.
      Be happy without depending on him and how he feels.

      You’ll be amazed to see that he will copy your self respect and do the same, without saying a word to him about it directly.

      Good luck!