Why Men Watch Porn (And Lie About it)

“I just don’t get it. I like sex. I’m available whenever he is interested. Why should he be going after pornographic bimbos?”

It just feels like you are not good enough, doesn’t it?

Your husband or boyfriend likes to look at other naked women to “pleasure himself” and it makes you sick to your stomach. Are you not attractive enough? Don’t you do enough in bed? Why do men watch porn?

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 You think that your man looks at these pictures and thinks: ‘Look at her. She’s just beautiful. Why can’t you be like that?

If that’s not enough, when you confront him about it, he lies straight to your face. He promises he will never do it again but soon enough you find new evidence on his computer or phone. Why do men watch porn and lie about it? Is it cheating?

Do All Men Like to “Watch Those Skanky Women”?

No, your partner is definitely not the only man watching porn, otherwise it wouldn’t be a multi-billion industry.

The statistics are truly staggering. The pornography industry has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix combined.

According to compiled numbers from respected news and research organizations, every second $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography. Every second 28,258 internet users are viewing pornography.

In that same second 372 internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines. Every 39 minutes a new pornographic video is being created in the U.S. (Source: toptenreviews.com)

Personally, I’ve never met a man who completely abstains from porn. And if you think you know such a man, he is probably lying to you.

 The Truth about Why Men Watch Porn

Men are visual creatures, they get turned on by visual triggers much more than women and it has NO emotional effect on them what so ever. These are the REAL reasons men watch porn:

1. For men, an orgasm is a great stress reliever (not to say that it isn’t also the case for women.)” No one knows why; it just is. So if he wants to quickly relieve stress, he will use porn to do that when you are not around.

He will do it even if you ARE around because he just wants to relieve some stress and not “make love” right now. You know how you like to call your best friend when you want to vent? This is how HE vents.

2. Men feel guilty about having sex just for sex’s sake with their wives or significant others. They feel like they are using her as a thing (as opposed to making love to the woman they love). So instead, they use pornography and masturbation.

3. Men like sexual variety and porn has an endless selection to choose from. This is true whether you like it or not. Would you rather he satisfies this need for variety through actual cheating?

Is Porn Cheating?

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 In my opinion, watching porn and masturbating to strange women’s images is NOT cheating. As long as he’s not fantasizing about a co-worker that he sees at work every day, as long as he only watches completely strange women that he never met, he is not cheating.

But Lying about it IS. Lying about it is not acceptable. So why do they lie about it?

 “Women Go Ballistic When You Tell Them the Truth”

This is basically what men think. And I think you’ll agree. O.k., you know men are different sexually but if you can’t trust him to be honest where will it end? You don’t understand why he keeps lying about it.

The answer lies within your question. Men lie about porn because they know how much you hate it, how it makes you feel and they have GIVEN UP about making you understand that not every porn-watching man is a degenerate sex addict.

 Can Porn Destroy Your Relationship?

It may sound sad, but pornography and male masturbation probably saved more relationships than they have destroyed. It’s a fact of modern life.

But, when you realize he is replacing you with porn more nights than not, he may be having a porn addiction. A porn addiction can definitely ruin the best of relationships and seeking professional help is a must.

 As long as this is not the case, and your spouse is a loving and faithful partner, take my word for it and turn a blind eye. He may continue “taking matters into his own hands”, but at least he won’t lie to you about it.

 What do you think? Do you agree with me? Disagree? I’d love to read your comments!

Rooting for ya,

Lisa

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  1. The article was eye opening for me. I honestly thought that porn ruines marriages.

    When my sister told me her husband was watching porn, I was horrified and recommended that she tells him that she will register as a porn star and he would be an exclusive customer although there would be no guarantees. In my mind I was thinking that this would be a way of getting the guy away from porn as I dont think any man would allow their wife to become a porn star.

    Afetr the article i dont condone men who watch porn I just feel they have to be sensetive and considerate to their wives

    • Thank you so much Marsha for reading and commenting, I’m glad you liked it and that it made you think…:) Come back to visit soon!:)…

      Lisa

  2. If my husband wasn’t into porn, I never would have found out my orgasm could be so orgasmic! (over the top kind of orgasms) I like a little porn too, alot of women do. Personally, porn has been another tool to enhance our sex life. I think it can be a problem if it becomes an obssesive behavior. Anything that becomes more important than your relationship can be a huge problem, whether its porn, drinking, gambling, etc.

  3. I think that porn is awesome in a relationship when watching it TOGETHER. I hate to say it, but, I have issues with my husband and porn/masturbation. See, my husband will wait till I’m gonna leave for a little while or I’m asleep or in the shower and secretly watch. And he does it at work all the time. It really hurts my feelings because I am a very sexual person and want sex as much as possible. And I don’t get it as much as I’d like. I feel like when he masturbates at work than I’m shit outta luck for a couple days. So, it’s like that’s taking from me and us. And he lies, and he has all kinds of secret stashes of discs and thumb drives with porn on them and lies about it. I’m like, hello!!!!! What about me??? And I’ve talked to him about all this and yet it doesn’t change anything. He says he won’t do it but every once in a while but then he’ll be doing it again the next day, ALL DAY LONG at work, looking at the shit. I’m obsessed with it now. Only because of the lies and I’m jealous because I want more sex and not getting it. I could go into more detail, but you get the point. I don’t know why it bothers me so much when it didn’t before. Maybe because I’m overweight I feel less desirable to him. And I’m 37 and he only looks at the “barely legal”. So the girls he looks at are everything I’m not or will never be. I’m so angry and frustrated. If you have any suggestions or comments, please feel free. Thank you.

  4. Hi Amber

    I’m sorry you have to deal with this, believe me, you are not the only one. First of all, I don’t think it has anything with your age, men always drool at women that are the exact opposite of their wife (especially if the marriage is more than a few years), that’s why the prettiest of women got cheated on with much-less attractive women..

    As for what you’ve shared here, unfortunately it does sound like he may have some sort of a porn addiction, for which he needs professional help.

    When a man prefers porn over sex with his wife (assuming that the marriage is generally “doing o.k), it’s a sign of addiction.

    I hope you can convince him to get some professional help.

    Good luck and hang in there.

  5. My husband watches any and all porn. He lies about watching it and will even continue to lie about it when he is shown the proof. To make matters worse, he moved out of our bedroom 9 months ago. We have not been intimate in over a year – his choice. He also frequently calls ex-lovers even with me in the room and ends each call with “I Love You”. Prior to moving out of our bedroom, there was not any sex for months. I want to be intimate but my husband will not have anything to do with me. If I try to talk to him, touch him, or initiate any sort of physicial connection, he pulls away.

    • I am going through the same thing. I feel so sorry for myself and our son. In my case, I think he’s been intimate with both sexes. Considering the type of porn that I’ve found. He’s checked out emotionally and physically. But it’s been a long time now and I’ve checked out emotionally. You can only be pushed away so many times until you give up. I’ve had a couple breakdowns and I’m not the same person I used to be. I’ve been solicited for sex a lot. I turn it down and then I slap myself. I know it’s wrong but where’s the value and commitment of my marriage. He refuses help so I’m done. Porn can destroy your marriage. Beware.

  6. I asked my husband to watch a video considered porn that teaches him how to make certain moves in the bedroom when a friend suggested it. Our sex life had drastically improved. I liked porn from there on out. I think pornography won’t destroy marriages, addiction to it does, when it takes away time from family and being intimate with your spouse, that’s the time it is not healthy for the marriage, it’s no different from eating too many eggs in a week. Anything in moderation is the key.

  7. I’m torn. My boyfriend and I discussed this a while ago and he told me he wouldn’t watch it again because he knows it upsets me. We don’t have much sex, maybe a few times every two weeks or so. Mostly he asks for blow jobs (which he always gets). He’s older and not horny all the time like me. But now it seems like every time I leave him home alone he watches porn and masturbates. Not only did he lie, but now it seems like he just doesn’t want to have sex with me. And I’m starting to feel like I don’t want to have sex with him. What makes it special if he’s going to just go look at other, prettier, sexier, naked women and satisfy himself? I like porn, but when I got into the relationship I stopped. And when the sex slowed down I made efforts to bring it back to speed with lingerie, special lubes, sex toys, games, and new positions. If I ask why he whacks off when I’m not around and doesn’t initiate sex when I am, he pretty much says it all depends on when he’s horny, and if I’m around or not when it happens is hit or miss. I’d be fine if he would just tell me the truth, and maybe we could even watch it together. It just feels wrong to me.

    • Dani, that sounds a lot like my situation. I’m the “Amber” that commented 3 above you. I feel just like you do. But, my husband will masterbate when I’m home. I’ve caught him in the garage when I was home and ready and willing to have sex at any time. It makes me so angry. He’ll use the excuse like “well you’ve been being a bitch lately”. And the only reason I had been a bitch is because I saw the he had been looking at porn as soon as I left to go somewhere. And every time he would do that, I would be more pissed and become a bigger bitch, etc. Long story short, now my desire to be intimate with him has faded away soooo much. And I’ve told him over and over that that was happening and that he was ruining our marriage slowly but surely, and yet, it continues. Every time we have a fight about it he swears he’s sooo sorry and that he won’t do it again and that he’s sorry and he’s so sorry, etc. Bullshit. He’s just sorry he got caught. I feel for you and hope your situation gets better. If you ever need to chat you can contact me here and we can exchange emails. I have not told anyone I know what I’m going through, and this is the only place I’ve ever been able to talk about my feelings. (except with my husband).

  8. Since it’s no big deal and it’s helping the guys out, the he won’t mind that his partner gets a site so other guys can whack off to her. This article is bs justification for guys to cheat in their own homes under their own partners noses under the guise of it doesn’t mean anything. It does. And if it doesn’t, then let your girl get a site.