How to Regain Trust in a Relationship – 5 Signs That You Can Start to Trust Your Cheating Spouse Again

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How to regain trust in a relationship - 5 Signs to Look For

When I found out my husband had an affair, my first instinct was to throw him out and call my lawyer.
After the initial rage was gone, I started to think more clearly. I thought about our children, I thought about everything, and I decided to give my marriage and my husband one last chance.
One of the first things I wanted to find out is how to regain trust in a relationship. This is because I truly believed that I could never ever trust him again. Ever. I didn’t know where to start, but one day I stumbled upon an article by John Alken and suddenly I knew what to look for. I want to share it with you now:

How to Regain Trust in a Relationship – Top 5 Signs That You Should Look For Today

1) They cut all contact with their lover
Your cheating partner needs to cut all contact with their lover. This can be difficult if they work together, mix in the same social circles or live next door. However, if you’re going to trust them again you need to know their lover is out of the picture. If they ever contact your partner again you also need an agreement that this goes to you first before they respond back. You must work as a team now and be totally transparent.

2) They show remorse and accept responsibility
You don’t want to hear excuses like “it was an accident”, “all men cheat — it’s what we do!’, or “I don’t know why it happened?” Nor do you want them to tell you that it was nothing and to downplay it all. Instead, they must show you real pain and remorse for their actions and take full responsibility for their bad choices. If they don’t, then you’ll simply keep your guard up because everything indicates that they’ll do it again.

3) They answer your questions

Most people who have been cheated on will have specific questions they need answered. You’ll have graphic images running around your head that never stop, and you’ll obsess about what exactly happened. You must be able to ask your questions — however graphic &3151 to get the pieces of the puzzle. If they aren’t prepared to answer these questions or they give you vague responses then you’ll suspect they’re hiding something and you’ll never move forward.

4) They follow new rules
To move forward with trusting your partner again they’re going to need to follow some of your new specific rules. It might be that they take off all passwords from their cell phone and computer, show you weekly bank statements and monthly phone bills, or come home from work at 6pm every night. They might need to ring you twice a day, stop work travel, or cut off contact with toxic friends. Whatever the rules, your partner needs to make these a priority.

5) They address relationship issues
If they manage to get this far and show you all of these signs, then it’s time for you both to turn your attention to your relationship. There will be aspects of this that aren’t working and you’ll both need to give this an overhaul. In the end, your relationship must be different moving forward if you’re going to survive. Look at the areas of communication, sex, time spent together, socializing, parenting, finances, housework and in-laws. Get in a professional if you have to, but make sure that these problem areas don’t remain obstacles to re-building trust. The original article is here.

There you have it. Does it make sense to you as it did to me? After I found (almost) all of these signs in my relationship, and learned more about how to regain trust in a relationship, I could move to next step in my “how to save marriage” plan – Dealing with obsessive images and negative thoughts. Read my article about how to do that – Here!

And most importantly, please tell your friends about this article, to help spread the word that about how to regain trust in a relationship. Thanks!:)